Grief and loss

GRIEF AND LOSS:

The grief that follows the unexpected death of a young person is shattering. Loss can feel like an assault on one’s very being, but people adapt in ways they never expected. Coping with loss takes endurance, courage and strength, and these are not traits that sit within a select few, but deeply human traits that everyone has embedded within them. The commitment that people show to living with purpose and conviction and kindness after devastating loss is extraordinary.

These are some resources about different aspects of grieving that you might find helpful: 

Hone, L.C., (2016). Resilient Grieving: This book discusses practical strategies that help build resilience, and is written by an academic researcher whose beloved daughter died.

Larry Weeks (host), “Resilient Grieving:  Dr Lucy Hone talks about living with loss.” Bounce, Ep 7, 17 July 2017. Podcast: Resilient Grieving by Dr Lucy Hone
EP.7: RESILIENT GRIEVING: DR. LUCY HONE TALKS ABOUT LIVING WITH LOSS | Larry Weeks
This covers similar ground to the author’s book, but you can sit down and listen via podcast.

Caroline Lloyd, author of Grief Demystified debunking four common myths about grief and loss.  Grief Demystified: Debunking four common myths about grief and loss
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0hEhwJvr14E
This podcast by an America academic debunks some common myths including the ‘stages of grief’ theory, that we should be all expressing our grief all the time and if we’re not talking about it there is something wrong, and that people need to ‘get over it.’

Beyond Closure: Nancy Berns at TEDxDesMoines
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w0rCfXSdYPE
This Ted talk is about the myth of ‘closure’ and talks instead of how grief and joy can coexist.

Helping or Harming? Psychology Today Blog by Dr Hone https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/resilient-grieving/202004/helping-or-harming
This blog from the popular ‘Psychology Today’ website gives people a strategy to use as they try to work out how to cope with their grief.

Nora McInerny’s TED talk
https://www.ted.com/talks/nora_mcinerny_we_don_t_move_on_from_grief_we_move_forward_with_it?language=en
Amongst other things, this TED talk focuses on the uncomfortableness of grief for those around the bereaved, in a very entertaining talk.

whatsyourgrief.com, Blog post Continuing Bonds: Shifting the Grief Paradigm
https://whatsyourgrief.com/continuing-bonds-shifting-the-grief-paradigm/
This blog talks about how to continue bonds with your loved one after they have died. This website can be explored further too as it contains a wealth of material on grieving.

The Renewing Power of Ritual by Fabiana Fondevila for Gratefulness.org
https://gratefulness.org/blog/renewing-power-ritual/
This article talks about how helpful rituals can be when we are grieving

Dr Lucy Hone Dr Lucy Hone’s TED talk, (2019), 3 Secrets of Resilient People TEDXChristchurch, (2019). Dr Lucy Hone: 3 Secrets of Resilient People
Lucy Hone: 3 secrets of resilient people | TED Talk
This very inspiring TED talk will give you three practical strategies to help cope with grief.